Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections

About Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections

An illuminating exploration of how to maintain a happy sex life in a long-term relationship, from the New York Times bestselling author of Come as You Are and co-author of Burnout.

In Come as You Are, Emily Nagoski, PhD, provided science-backed lessons that revolutionized the way we think about women’s sexuality. Now, in Come Together, Nagoski takes on a fundamentally misunderstood subject: sex in long-term relationships.

Nagoski breaks down the myths many of us have been taught about sex—for instance, the belief that sexual satisfaction and desire are highest at the beginning of a relationship and that they will inevitably decline the longer that relationship lasts. Nagoski assures us that’s not true.

So, what is true? Come Together isn’t about how much we want sex, or how often we’re having it; it’s about whether we like the sex we’re having. Nagoski breaks down the obstacles that impede us from enjoying sex—from stress and body image, to relationship difficulties and gendered beliefs about how sex “should” be—and presents the best ways to overcome them. You’ll learn:
• that “spontaneous desire” is not the kind of desire to strive for if you want to have great sex for decades
• vocabulary for talking with partners about ways to get in “the mood” and how to not take it personally when “the mood” is nowhere to be found
• how to understand your own and your partner’s “emotional floorplan,” so that you have a blueprint for how to get to a sexy state of mind

With her signature insight, humor, and empathy, Nagoski shows us what great sex can look like, how to create it in our own lives, and what to do when struggles arise.

1. Complete Title: Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections
2. Format: Hardcover
3. Language: English
4. Number of Pages: 368
5. Publication Time: January 30, 2024
6. Publisher: Ballantine Books
7. ISBN: 0593500822
8. ISBN13: 9780593500828

About Emily Nagoski

Emily Nagoski

The official bio is:
“Emily Nagoski has a PhD in Health Behavior with a doctoral concentration in human sexuality from Indiana University (IU), and a master’s degree (also from IU) in Counseling, with a clinical internship at the Kinsey Institute Sexual Health Clinic. She has taught graduate and undergraduate classes in human sexuality, relationships and communication, stress management, and sex education.”

What all that means, really, is that I am here to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. It’s a small goal in the grand scheme of things – I’m not trying to bring peace to the Middle East or repair the ozone layer – but it’s a goal that I think truly does have the power to change lives and, ultimately, the world.

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